Hey Ladies,
Thank you to each of you who prayed for me, Justin and our marriage yesterday. I appreciate all your texts and love. I love that we are on this journey together. Today has been better. We did get our counseling session in. It was very productive. We are also trying out a new lifegroup tonight. I am super excited about joining this lifegroup. Justin has never been a part of a lifegroup before and I think it is going to AWESOME!
On to today's topic: Companionship. I love that she covers companionship with God as well as with our husbands. Today hit home for me because she talks a lot about trust and how it effects companionship. Trust is something I struggle with because Justin has not been honest with me in the past. This is part of the reason we are going through counseling now. He is willing to make the effort to work on us and regain my trust. I am thankful for that.
What do you do to promote companionship? What do you and your husband enjoy doing together?
Are there things you do not trust your husband to do? If so why?
For today's challenge Justin is all excited because he loves when I play PS3 with him so that is what he would like me to do with him. It is an activity that he enjoys. I am terrible at it but will do it because it is promoting companionship. Next week we will be going to Gatlinburg/Smokey Mountains for a mini vacation. That is something I am really looking forward to and I think it will help with companionship.
There are things around the house I don't trust Justin to do as much and feel I need to go behind him and do them again if he does them. The dishes for example. I always find food stuck on utensils, etc. So I would rather wash dishes myself. Sounds silly I know, but I bet each of you have something similar you can relate to. I really enjoyed Jennifer's video today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDfNWWcIRXM
Have a Wonderful Evening!
Today's topic of companionship also hit home with me... but for different reasons. Since I was a little girl I have fallen in LOVE with sunsets. When I catch a glimpse of an amazing sunset, it nearly takes my breath away. I find myself also finding beauty in random things and after today's companionship devotional I have come to know that that is God's intentional way of reminding me that he longs for my companionship too. So, now when I see a beautiful sunset or something else beautiful I will count it as a small reminder from God that I need to nurture my companionship with Him.
ReplyDeleteI also have been reminded of my vows and that these represent companionship in my husband and I. I'm sure you all have experienced up's and down's as Torey and I have, so it was a nice reminder that our vows meant that we will stand side by side through all of what life throws at us.
As for today's challenge, I watched a little TV with Torey. He enjoys sitting down after dinner and watching a show or two and I don't really care to watch TV much, but today I sat with him for a good half hour. It's all I could get in before his bed time! haha
Trina mentioned trust. I have a type A personality where I feel if I really want something done right the first time I will do the task myself. When my son was first born, I gave Torey a hard time about doing things my way. For example, I was the only one who washed my son's bottles because I felt like I did the best job and didn't really let my husband do it. As time has gone on and my son is a little older now I feel I have recognized my inability to trust in my husband to do things in our household and our marriage. I have backed off quite a bit. I also feel I have made a conscious effort to trust him and support him and what he does. That is where today's devotional connected with me and my marriage.
Lastly, I found the second journal question (asking if I trust my husband to fulfill tasks in our marriage) to be an easy one. I simply felt like if I put my trust in God to guide my husband, that I can trust that he will fulfill our needs he is responsible for.
Trista, I love your sunset story! Also, I can relate to you in that I too have a type A personality and would rather do things myself to ensure that they are done properly. When our first child was born, I was the only one who could wash bottles, change diapers, etc. Needless to say, after having three kids, I have let go of those controlling tendencies. I find myself feeling grateful for any amount of help with the kiddos. :)
DeleteI had an "aha" moment during today's devotional. I never understood why Chris and I lacked companionship...but today I realized that it all goes back to trust (or the lack there of). I had trust issues beginning early in our relationship, which was mostly due to the amount of close female friends that Chris had when we met. These trust issues escalated throughout the first six years of our marriage. A lot of things happened during those six years that confirmed why we distrusted one another. I can't pinpoint the exact turning point, but I can say that sometime within the past year and a half, we have developed such an amazing friendship. I truly believe that the companionship that we now share is due to the fact that we are able to put our past behind us and move forward with a newfound trust for one another. To promote companionship, we focus on communication and really listening to one another during casual conversation.
ReplyDeleteFor today's challenge, I told Chris that we would go to the movie theater the next evening he is off work. He loves to go to the movies, but I prefer to watch movies from the comfort of my own home.
Trista I love your reference on sunsets! I can relate to you and not being able to just sit and watch TV for long. Justin, like Torey, enjoys watching TV and relaxing but I always feel there are a million other things to get done.
ReplyDeleteShauna I think going to the movies is an awesome way to build companionship.